Welcome to Presence Parenting. I am taking a break from facilitating sessions and workshops to explore a year of mindfulness. Everything shared here is an invitation to clearly choose the presence we bring to parenting and I hope you find something helpful while you’re here. Thank you for visiting. — Amy
I’m glad you’re here. I invite you to spend a few moments simply resting while you read. Take a cleansing breath and allow your shoulders to soften. It’s so easy to move from one thing to the next and get all wrapped up in the busy-ness of life. If there’s one thing I can share while you visit this site, it’s an invitation to slow down and rest for a few moments.
My name is Amy Phoenix and I am a meditating mom of five committed to cultivating force free, trust full relationships. Early on, doubt and anger overshadowed my parenting experience, resulting in a lot of shame and strained communication. A few years in, I set out to make some much needed changes. Presence Parenting is the ongoing expression of these changes.
I am continually growing and learning, and you are likely to notice editorial adjustments around the site as I harness and utilize my creative energies. Along with mothering and meditation, I am writing a few books, learning to make a house a home, honing my collaboration skills and offering safe space to parents who want to transform challenges into opportunities.
Presence Parenting is about the presence we bring to parenting – specifically when we’re feeling doubt, frustration, anger or even rage. Sometimes things get messy and presence is far from our minds. Other times we love parenting and wonder how we could ever feel as upset as we do. If you know all too well the experience of feeling more anger than you’d like toward those you love most – and are ready to change these patterns one moment at a time – please get started with the links below.
Helpful Links to Get You Started
SAFE – An invitation to feel what you feel fully and safely. SAFE is a step-by-step process for meeting emotions and can be especially helpful if you struggle to handle anger responsibly or are working through past trauma.
Simple Inquiry – Give your parenting experience direction by considering what you really want, what doesn’t work and what does, along with how you can work with resistance through acceptance.
Simple Meditation – We can learn to relax into life through noticing and strengthening the ability to rest deeply, in whatever circumstances we face. Meditate in the moment and in a quiet practice to develop the skill of choosing your response to life (and your kids) intentionally.
Choosing Presence (aka Sane Parenting Challenge) – An opportunity to become skilled at stopping the reaction cycle so you can change the way you respond when parenting feels intense. Each week we practice an integral microskill to help deepen the ability to stop and choose how we experience ourselves, our children and our lives.
Navigating Emotions – One of the biggest sticking points in parenting is dealing with how we and our children feel. Start with yourself and learn how to navigate emotions with simple exercises you can apply to your life right now.
Ways to Discipline a Child – One of the most important and challenging decisions we make as parents is how we teach our children. Learn the differences between punishment, permissiveness and discipline so you can make a clear decision that is in line with your values.
Quick Help Articles – Rewrite your parenting experience with affirmative statements, choose some alternatives to blowing up and shutting down, use your whole body as a camera to appreciate parenting and learn how you can change your parenting experience one moment at a time.
Presence Parenting Principles – The deeper philosophy of this work.